If you have ever been on a date? Then this is for you, you know exactly what I am talking about, unless you are living in denial…or a psychopath…

This will move from amusing to serious and heart clenching, and life changing (take it to heart).

I went on a first date/first meet recently. It has been a long time since I have gone on a decent date. I of course rambled with butterflies in my stomach the entire time thinking I am an idiot while he is listening and talking. Let me tell you ladies he is very good looking and charming. So of course that added more to my nervous babbling. In my head I just kept hitting myself over and over like “did I really just ask that?”, “did I really just say that” and “why aren’t I talking right now, he’s going to think that I can’t create conversation!”.

As a side note…do guys love perfume like most of us love cologne?

But I want to talk about the before ladies…guys have a bit of an easier time than we do with all the social pressures out there to wear makeup, the need to have flawless skin, and so much more. Although, they still get nervous, and get the ‘jitters’.

If you do not get butterflies before every date, no matter how long the relationship has been for, then I really feel for you because getting the ‘jitters’ before every date is what makes it special, and makes it feel the same as it did when you first met them. I’m not at this point yet, but it is as if you are going on a date, every date and falling in love with them all over again.

Some people may say that is impossible or rarely happens anymore. I am here to tell you that is because you are not stopping to take in the beauty of the simple things, “smelling the roses”. The little things are what make the big things. The little gestures are what make the biggest waves. The littlest touch is what makes you feel alive.

If you don’t have that, and this is just my opinion, then I don’t know what you are doing. If you feel like you are in a relationship where this can be possible—then make it happen. You have all the power to change your life.

Who do you want to be? Who do you want to be with? What do you want in life?

Make a change. Take a chance. Do something different. Take that leap of faith.
—Isabelle Winters