Why do people ask us if we are OK when they obviously know that we are not OK? We all do it, I know I do. It’s just that I don’t understand why. Do you?
TO start off I want to thank and give credit to Alina Ceusan and damnlol.com for the definitions I will put into quotations of the emotions this writer has written about (not my work), adding my own spin and take to it!
- Sonder is “the realization that each passerby has a life as vivid and complex as your own.”
You look around and see all these people around you, realizing they are not perfect, they do not lead perfect lives and that they DO have problems just as real as your own. We feel as if we are alone in this world, especially in the depths of our own despair but we are not. Next time you are out and around people, take a look around and see all the hidden truths, the tragedies, the sadness. We do not live alone in this world. When we are lonely, upset, happy just think; there is someone out there just like you, feeling those exact same emotions. We are not alone in misery, happiness, sadness; life. Take some comfort from the knowledge that someone, at least, is out there feeling with you.
- Opia “the ambiguous intensity of looking someone in the eye, which can feel simultaneously invasive and vulnerable.”
Listen up! When you are out and about and you are looking around at all those people, do not stare like a crazy person (I mean this in the kindest way possible). It is awkward; incredibly awkward.
- Monachopsis is “the subtle but persistent feeling of being out-of-place.”
High School anyone? That is when I felt most out of place…OK that is a lie, it was Junior High (shudder). Seriously guys. This is the most common of them all, especially for girls. Ever go on a date and feel like what you’re wearing is not right or that you should have maybe gone somewhere else as it doesn’t “work” with who you are? Thinks literally everyone at least once or twice that has been on a date in their lifetime. I got news for you! For most people it will most likely not go away, it will just dwindle over time to you barely knowing it is there.
- Énouement is “the bittersweetness of having arrived in the future, seeing how things turn our, but not being able to tell your past self.”
Well…we failed. Or did we succeed? Depending on if you over-boasted about something or if you had such a low point in your life and you wish you could go back and tell yourself you would be ok, this is what that feeling or wishfulness is.
- Vellichor is “the strand wistfulness of used bookshops.”
Hell yes! although in my case it is anywhere that sells books, especially fiction.
- Nodus Tollens is “the realization that the plot in your life doesn’t make sense to you anymore.”
So true. I sometimes think what is the purpose of my life, where is it leading me to, why is this the path I feel compelled to take? Please don’t go all religious on me. I believe in my own way that there are truths to any and all religion but that doesn’t mean I want to analyze everything through it. Not saying that is bad at all! What I mean is that I am not completely sure what I believe in yet, and I just want to see where my openness takes me on that. Completely off topic, but maybe not.
- Onism is “the frustration of being stuck in just one body, that inhabits only one place at a time.”
Have you ever read a dystopian, supernatural novel and just wanted to have it be real for just a day, as long as you don’t die within those 24 hours? I have. I think I would like to be a vampire. I could definitely wear black or red all the time. Okay maybe not red, but definitely black. Or what if time travel existed? Would you go ahead or back in time if you had to choose? I would go back. I don’t know why it appeals to my curiosity but I would love to live a day in the Victorian era.
- Liberosis is “the desire to care less about things.”
I have mixed feelings about what I have thought that I would like to care less about. Maybe about what others think of me? I am not sure. What do you think?
- Altschmerz (is that a real word? My spellcheck didn’t pick it up, I honestly don’t know if any of these are real but what the hell, why not) is “weariness with the same old issues that you’ve always had – the same boring flaws and anxieties that you’ve been gnawing on for years.”
- Occhiolism is “the awakens of the smallness of your perspective.”
As I typed that out I could imagine my perspective zooming out to see the entirety of the world and know that my perspective is very small, but that doesn’t mean that it is useless or unimportant, yours either. Who knows, you or I could change the world one day.
- Anecdoche is “a conversation in which everyone is talking, but nobody is listening.”
Ever been to a party? Or in a high school classroom?
- Ellipsism is “a sadness that you’ll never be able to know how history will turn out.”
I get this all the time. It is odd that we have so little time in this world, so many have much less than the fortunate but it still seems so short. We will not know many big changes as the past generations will, but then again who says we won’t?
- Kuebiko is”a state of exhaustion inspired by acts of senseless violence.”
- Lachesism is “the desire to be struck by disaster – to survive a plane crash or to lose everything in a fire.”
My favourite episodes on Grey’s Anatomy is the disaster ones; the plane crash, the hospital shooting (was there only one?) and recently the hostage/bomb crisis (season 13, I think).
- Exulansis is “the tendency to give up trying to talk about an experience because people are unable to relate to it.”
This feeling comes up after every time I try to talk with my mother or another one of my family members about my writing, photography or my drawings. I just can’t seem to get them to try and connect with me in the way I want, at least a little bit. Maybe that is selfish but it is human nature to want to be able to relate and have someone relate and understand you.
- Adronitis is the “frustration with how long it takes to get to know someone.”
Other than with the guys I seem to date lately, this feeling is not a common one for me. Anyone have stories or thoughts?
- Rückkehrunruhe is “the feeling of returning home after an immersive trip only to find it fading rapidly from your awareness.”
It is like you never left.
- Rubatosis is “the unsettling awareness of your own heartbeat.”
Have you ever just lay in bed, trying to sleep and then your heartbeat is so strong and you are a hundred percent aware of it? It is such an overwhelming feeling that I once thought I had an irregularity with my heart or that I was having an episode of some sort.
- Kenopsia is “the eerie, forlorn atmosphere of a place that is usually bustling with people but is now abandoned and quiet.”
Dystopian movies and abandoned places, yes.
- Mauerbauertraurigkeit (WTF) is “the inexplicable urge to push people away, even close friends you really like.”
I feel that way once people move away. It really is inexplicable, and heart-wrenching.
- Jouska is “a hypothetical conversation that you compulsively play out in your head.”
I always go over the “Mom I am moving out” conversation in my head because most of the time it is explosive.
- Chrsalism is “the amniotic tranquility of being indoors during a rainstorm.”
‘Please rain tomorrow, I cried’.
- Vemödalen is “the frustration of photograph[ing]” – there was a typo in their definition – “something amazing when thousands of identical photos already exist.”
Do not get me started.
Well that is it to the 23 emotions that are hard to explain when feeling them, with some really weird names to identify them as.